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Episode 25. Beca Boston
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gcwpodcast
Welcome, Becca.
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Becca Boston
Thank you.
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gcwpodcast
Why don't you go ahead and start telling us a little bit about yourself?
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Becca Boston
Yeah. So my name is Becca Boston, not from Boston. I was born and raised outside of Philadelphia, Pennsylvania and now live here in Tacoma, Washington. And before anything, I am a big hearted extrovert who loves connecting with other people. And it is my mission and motto in life to help others recognize that um your strength isn't about how heavy you can lift, how hard you can take a hit or how much you can handle. Your strength is giving your pain of voice and receiving the help that is needed while staying true to who you are.
00:39.08
Becca Boston
um with my motto, Stay Strong, Stay You. And I'm blessed to say that Stay Strong, Stay You these days has reached over 2 million people. And um today I'm just incredibly excited to be here speaking with you and your community. So thank you for having me.
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gcwpodcast
Of course. So tell us a little bit about Stay Strong, Stay You. Is that just a motto or what do you mean when you say it's reached two million people?
01:04.55
Becca Boston
Yeah, so it started off as a motto for myself I started telling myself in the midst of the pandemic. And then, as I began to share that on social media people began to be impacted and could relate to the message that I was sharing, and I began to build a following as well as You know, some very loyal supporters and throughout time, throughout social media, as well as speaking engagements, those numbers have just added on up. But one thing for me and like I shared is like I live for that one person impact mentality is is what really matters to me. The numbers are great, but the impact is really what makes um the most importance to me.
01:42.36
gcwpodcast
Yeah. So tell me how you got to the space where you had a motto and you a published a book, I believe, on managing burnout. Tell us about that.
01:55.74
Becca Boston
Yeah, so publishing Burn the Burnout has been a journey. It's a journey that I'm still on. It's something that I'm very passionate about talking about, do a lot of um speaking engagements within it. But for me, it started from I was in the caregiving world for six plus years supporting individuals with intellectual and developmental disabilities. I was a certified nursing for a while. And throughout my journey, I was never taught how to make myself a priority. And I was so accustomed to putting other people before myself.
02:24.11
Becca Boston
And you know where I was taking continuing education courses, and we were always taught how to take care of other people, never taught how to take care of myself. But it was through my lived experience of the pandemic that I really actually learned how to take care of myself um and start prioritizing myself. um So i in February of 2024,
02:46.88
Becca Boston
for a wide variety of different reasons, made the decision to quit my full-time job as a caregiver and move here to Tacoma, Washington with ah no plan other than family right down the street and a roof over my head. um And since then, I've just been very passionate about um helping the caregiving community while also um working for NAMI, the National Alliance of Mental Illness for Pierce County.
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Becca Boston
um and
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gcwpodcast
So,
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Becca Boston
It's been a beautiful journey ever since I've brought Burn the Burnout.
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gcwpodcast
thank you.
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Becca Boston
um You know, I've had a wide variety of other people in different fields reach out, so.
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gcwpodcast
Yeah, so tell us about burn the burnout.
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Becca Boston
Yeah, so Burn the Burnout, I break it down in a wide variety of different ways because I think um So often when we hear burnout, one, burnout is a wide variety of different emotions. I say it's a marathon of emotions because burnout is um built up off of prolonged stress, um often related in your job field, but I think the world has really shown us that, you know, burnout can come from any aspect of our life.
03:54.80
Becca Boston
um So we kind of talk about like, you know, some of the signs and the symptoms of losing your passion, being exhausted, said um kind of disconnected in some ways. um But I also talk about how, you know, self care is really important, you know, self care isn't selfish, it's needed for your progression within your life. But I think when we talk about self care, so many people think about the feel good activities, like,
04:19.01
Becca Boston
you know, eating a bucket of ice cream, which I'm not telling people not to do because if you take away ice cream for me, my mental health is going to suffer. Right. But I think we we think of self-care as the feel good activities when self-care is so much more than just the feel good stuff. It's changing the narrative in your minds. What are you telling yourself or are you bullying yourself and kind of digging your your potential a grave? um Then we go into six different aspects of self-care. So we go into physical emotional, spiritual, mental, productive, and social self-care. I think those are all of them um off the top of my head. And then we finish with how to create healthy boundaries. So that's a little bit of an overview of all the things that we dive into.
05:03.72
gcwpodcast
I really love the the categories that you have in there because we see a lot of, like you said, self care and it's, you know, go get a pedicure, go to the sauna, do um just a beach day or something. And I think those things are great. But all of those topics are a part of it as well. And for me, I think when I feel the most stressed and overwhelmed is when I don't have my life organized. And
05:35.70
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It's easy to function in sort of this unorganized way where you're kind of like, I'm doing the things to survive and I'm getting by, but I don't feel like I have a plan for tomorrow. I have a plan for next week.
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And i read this book that was called a plan for tomorrow today and it was a really simple concept of at the end of your day take the last five minutes and write down your top three priorities for tomorrow and write down what time you will have them done by and you know it's better to try to do it earlier.
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than later, but just simple concepts like that, I believe can take off like that mental load that especially entrepreneurs or um caregivers or mothers, people that have a lot of different things on their plate, um just having that organized aspect of your life and your personal and in your business and in your career, um I think can mean a mean a lot and it can make a big difference.
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Becca Boston
Oh, absolutely. Yeah. And I love what you said about like putting a timeline on it. Like I'd heard, I've heard like the, you know, prepare for your day, the the evening before, but put to put a timeline on it, I think that's powerful.
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gcwpodcast
Yeah, and I've heard that even there's some science behind checking a box. um
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Becca Boston
Yes.
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that like it gives you that sort of endorphin release and there was a point in my life and it's not right now but where I was very busy doing you know my normal job, non-profit stuff, grit city women, all of these things and training to climb a mountain.
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I had every 15 minutes of every day booked in my calendar of like when I was going to work out, when I was going to go grocery shopping, when I was going to
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Becca Boston
That's how.
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hang out with whoever and do do these activities. And then I would intentionally not book one weekend. I wouldn't book anything. And that was like my open weekend that if a friend called and said, hey, like, what are you doing? Let's hang out. I was like, yeah, this weekend's totally free. And then if nothing came up,
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I would just hang out at home and like, you know, do whatever I wanted, go shopping. Now, some people might say that's a little neurotic or crazy, but I was so, I was so effective that my house was cleaner. Everything was cleaner. I was eating healthier the way I managed it. Um, I really strive to kind of get back to that place. But I think in reality, having a child and a husband and pets and more and more responsibilities that I can't kind of control, it's changed. But just knowing that you are capable of taking control of sort of the chaos in your life, I think is something that I enjoy sharing with others.
08:36.35
Becca Boston
Well, I think what's beautiful about what you shared too is like you can manage your time. We're all capable of managing our own time. And sometimes that means we're going to have to get up a little earlier to prioritize ourselves. Sometimes that means we're going to have to make sacrifices. But I think the beautiful thing about like that is I always say show me your calendar and it exposes your priorities. And if you're not kind of putting in your workout.
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yeah
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Becca Boston
If you're not putting in the time for yourself, then ah gee are are you really making yourself a priority? But I also love that you like intentionally put those days to not do anything, because it's like we need those flex days.
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Becca Boston
We need, rest is productive. And I think that's something that especially like entrepreneurs in particularly struggle with, because we live in such a hustle culture. um But it's OK to rest is productive.
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gcwpodcast
Yeah.
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Well, and you get time. I think it's important to have time to think like in my career, you know, I would, my calendar would be booked and I couldn't control all of it.
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Becca Boston
Yes.
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Um, but I would block out time intentionally to sit and to not have any meetings. not have any tasks. And I just sit at my desk. And that is when I would think about some of the complex problems that were going on with my team, some of the complex problems that maybe I might have been experiencing. um What are some things that we want to do differently? What what are some things the organization might want to do differently? What are some things that i that They aren't on my list right now, but I need to get on my list. And, you know, ideas would just come to me. But if you don't book time to even think and have that freedom and and be able to be creative, e you're just going to kind of be like a zombie to your calendar.
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Becca Boston
Absolutely. yeah
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gcwpodcast
So the burnout book, what what else am What else came out of that journey for you?
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Becca Boston
You know, i think I think it's one of the first tasks that I've been just so passionate about that like, you know, I've done a lot of different things. I've put in reps in a lot of different ways, but I think it's really helped me claim my own belief. And even with setbacks of, you know, I've been trying to get it on Amazon and the journey of like that not working out, but also like it's really helped me to be like,
11:08.35
Becca Boston
All right, I'm not giving up a fight. This is something I believe in. This is something that I truly believe is needed. And I think sometimes when setbacks you know happen, we allow that to like bring us down. And not to say like it can't, but don't allow your your feelings to become your full reality and allow you to give up. um So I think for me, this whole process has just been a beautiful way to remind me that you know to run my own race at my own pace and um that at all at all it'll be where it's supposed to you know kind of go throughout time.
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Becca Boston
um But um I think it's also like, I think the biggest thing for me too while I'm in this season is I have to practice what I preach.
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gcwpodcast
Mm hmm.
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Becca Boston
You know, like, I'm living in this hustle culture right now of, you know, working and also doing my entrepreneurship and spending time with family and getting pulled this way and that way. And I'm like, I have to be able to practice for each other. I'm going to be that burnout person. So I think in in instance the love of the long run, it's like,
12:18.59
Becca Boston
I know it works because I'm living it. And i'm I'm like, checking off the boxes. And I'm like, all right. Because I believe you can't practice what you preach, then you need to change your your message.
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here
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Becca Boston
So I know for me, I'm just putting constantly putting on myself into check of like, all right, am i am i doing what do I need to do? What's the next thing on the list to make myself a priority?
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gcwpodcast
Yeah. And did you think when you had this vision to start talking about burnout with care the caregiver community, um and really publishing a book essentially, like did you think it would make the impact that it did?
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Becca Boston
I think i when I first thought of it, I was still honestly like in the caregiving world, so for me, I think I knew it was there, but I was still that burnt out caregiver that really couldn't give it any attention um or like allow it to blossom in the way it was supposed to. you And now that I'm out of the caregiving world, it's been like an amazing journey just to see, not even just caregivers, but like the entrepreneurs that are coming to me, like higher companies that are coming
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to talk to their communities. I'm just like, wow, okay, this really is like, I knew it was something, but I didn't know it was like, to this extent, which is really exciting. So I think it was always there. I just needed, I needed to lovingly remove myself from the caregiving. world
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Yeah, you made a decision, a life-changing decision.
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Becca Boston
Yeah, absolutely.
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So tell us about publishing a book. What's that process like? you know How did you work through those steps? And did you do it alone?
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Becca Boston
Yeah, great question. So though I think my biggest tip and recommendation, like if anybody's looking to become an author, I started off with doing a compilation book. um So it was me and a bunch of authors that are in one book. um And then we work together and that became a best-selling author. So right off the bat, you know, when I then took my next step of publishing my book, I could already say I'm a best-selling author from the previous book. So that's one thing I would say is if if anybody is like looking to, you know, kind of kickstart, I think it's a great a great way. Usually you write like a chapter or two.
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Becca Boston
or even just a blurb, but you're in the book. It gets you, it kickstarts your career of being an ah author. From there, I kind of knew that I wanted to share my story.
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It had been on my heart for a long time.
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I'm going to show you how to do it.
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Becca Boston
I am dyslexic. So for me, it was that interesting journey of just like, Okay, but what about editing? That's I'm really not good at editing. And like, there were so many like, it wasn't even the the like, practical part of sharing my story that I feared it was more like the practical steps. So actually, what happens for me was I wrote the book,
15:16.63
Becca Boston
Um, on my own, it was actually really relatively easy for me to write. Um, and then I, I threw a conference and right after the conference, one of my best friends and coaches, um, who spoke, we were eating and having crawfish and he was like, okay, now you've had a taste of, so just you've had a taste of success. What's next?
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Becca Boston
i was like bro i just put on a conference like can i at least get 24 hours to like to like breathe and like soak this in he was like no he's like because if if you allow this to settle down you're not you may not have the momentum to keep going and i just want you to have that next thing on your radar of what you're gonna do and as much as like that like drove me crazy i was like all right i'm gonna call you home because when i get home because i have a
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gcwpodcast
You're welcome.
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All right, everybody.
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Becca Boston
I have a book that I've been sitting on and I called him right when I got home and I invested into him and I think that was the one of the best investments that I could have made for a wide variety of different reasons. I mean he not only helped me with the practical aspects but especially so my book's the story behind the smile and part of the story behind the smile is that I was involved in a domestic violence relationship and struggled with an addiction to self-harm that I didn't talk about it. I hid it behind the smile. So it was very healing and there were parts where I needed to pause, but he gave me permission to take those pauses. He was very helpful in those moments while also holding me accountable to be like, you're still doing this, Justin.
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Mine do. But throughout the process he taught me how to, you know, put it on KDP, which is Amazon and take all the practical steps. So now I'm able to do it on my own and teach us teach others who, you know, have that goal of becoming a published author.
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And so you had a coach, was he a publication coach or was he just a coach um for your career or your kind of skillset?
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Becca Boston
Yeah, so he, um he's a multi talented man in a wide variety of different ways.
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Okay.
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Becca Boston
um He does specifically do book coaching. So he, he actually will, I think he calls it
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okay
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Becca Boston
Well, he does one for speaking where it's like, master your message. So if you want to become a public speaker, but I forget what he calls it, but it's like you take the noodles in your head and you make it, you make it a book.
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Um, because so many people have like an idea or a thought. Um, he's like, he's really good at getting that thought into, um, words on a page and published.
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So shout out to my star is black.
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gcwpodcast
I love that. Okay, what's what's his name?
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Becca Boston
Marcus black.
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Marcus Black. Wow. and I think I love that you are sharing that you hired and invested in yourself a coach, you know, you invested in a coach.
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That is something that I've done and I think it's paid off for me tenfold. And at the time it seems like a lot because coaches aren't cheap. And and you're kind of like, what am I doing? Am I a little bit of a loony tune here?
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And at the end of the day, you do need a cheerleader. You need somebody that has a little bit of that expertise that um understands sort of the market and the area that you're in, the bureaucracies that can help you navigate that emotional roller coaster you have with yourself of like wanting to take breaks and feeling like maybe I'm not really going to do this, but I really want to do this. And they're like, no, you need to do this. you know um I think that's important, and that's something that I continuously try to share with women, and especially women that are feeling stuck or have this vision, like you said, that's noodle in your head that you can't get out. And so um i I love that you're sharing that information with us.
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Becca Boston
Yeah, I think it's important to recognize that, you know, each and every single one of us are a player in the game of life. And every player, every coach, every coach needs a coach, right? um So there's no there should be be no shame in getting a coach or getting a therapist.
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Yep.
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clearlyly
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Becca Boston
Like nobody in this life was handed a manual on how to live life. um And there's just power and strength of linking arms and being able to grow and elevate together. So
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Yeah, i I mean, yeah, nobody has a ah playbook. And if you want to excel, you can you've got to find the ways and the tips and the tricks and the support and the network to get you there. And there is absolutely no shame. And if anything, it shows that you're you're willing to put in some work to learn the game of life, to learn the game of leveling up, to learn the game of finding your passion,
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to get where you want to be and live the life you want to be. And um yeah, i'm really I'm really excited about just coaching in general. I'm really passionate about it.
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Becca Boston
Yeah and I think it's important to recognize too that you know if you're if you're not in that financial space like podcasts could be coaches. Like Marcus even talks about how there's musicians that have been coaches for him you know in seasons of like you know their lyrics just hit hit him differently. I know I've had that like there's different ways of having somebody to coach you that you may not necessarily invest and obviously there's like Google University and um YouTube University that you can Google just about anything for free but I also think it is important to have that like one-on-one relationship with somebody and then make that investment and because also too when you make that excuse me when you make that financial investment you're more likely to show up to it.
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gcwpodcast
Yeah, absolutely. And you know, There is something to be said for some of the free options out there if you're not in that space yet. I know for me, and it's so corny, but I always share it. Maybe it's not corny. Maybe I'm just telling myself that. But you know on YouTube, there's a point in my life where I was really low and not confident in myself and just feeling lost.
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anne I started looking up these YouTube videos of like inspirational YouTube videos, and they were compilations of different inspirational motivational speakers. And um those really helped me because I mean, I don't know if you've heard of like Les Brown, but his story is just um amazing. And I just I think he's phenomenal. He's one of my favorite And just putting that on blast while I'm cleaning my house. you know I'm listening to these speeches and just thinking, you know like these people went through so much more. And then even the little tidbits of advice that they give, I you know i'd just be inspired and a light bulb would turn on for me. And so those are things that if you are in a rut or in this space, you can listen to every morning when you get up. You can watch it before you go to bed. If you're a visual person, a lot of them have video clips that go with it.
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So there are some things and then when you're ready and you can invest in it, it's definitely worthwhile.
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And you never know who like you're one person away from that could be on one of their podcasts that like take you to the next level because it's, it's, what's crazy.
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There's so many different crazy aspects of this, but like Marcus is coached by Wes Brown, actually. So like, I'm going to have to, I'm going to have to send you
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No.
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one I'm going to cry.
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Becca Boston
um I'll have to send you over his his profile so you can check him out. He's absolutely amazing.
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Yes.
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But what happened for me too is, um so I'm a big Trent Shelton fan. um And when I first discovered Trent, I actually ah did not like him because I was just out of my domestic violence relationship and I didn't understand the um difference between passion and yelling. And he's very passionate about mental health because of his own struggles, because of him losing you know his best friend to suicide. So yeah I didn't understand that ah the time, but I related to his one message that was about self-harm. Fast forward years later, 2017, I'm thinking about throwing in the top of my life when a video of his, um your life isn't over popped up on my phone.
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um And, you know, made a promise to myself, no matter how hard life gets, um I'll keep on coloring. Fast forward to 2020. I invested into his coaching program. um And 2021, he had, or actually it was 2020. What's crazy is, Trent brought me on a live.
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um to talk about like the George Floyd situation. Marcus saw me on that live, but I don't remember seeing him. I remember Marcus um on trends podcast and that's what led to us being a mutual which led to this trickle of like us supporting each other us like now being really good friends to you know i'm i definitely would invest into him again but you know we've gotten to the level where we can bounce ideas off of each other and all of that but i i share that all to say like don't be afraid when
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here Yeah.
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you know you see these big people too to like pop in their dms to be active like and knows my name because i've been so active um so i just so share that to whoever may listen and just be afraid like get involved they're human
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yeah
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You never know you know. In worst case, you don't get a response and and that's okay. you know It's not the right time, but yeah, absolutely.
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Becca Boston
Yeah.
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That's an incredible story. i am I feel like my life is fulfilled now that I have a like three, four, four person connection from Les Brown.
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Yes, yes.
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ah yeah Okay, so one of the mottos that you've shared was one person impact mentality. Tell me about that and why that motto is important to you.
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Becca Boston
Yeah, so I think part of my journey, especially these days, is people see the platform that I have on TikTok with, ah right now I'm sitting at like 26,000 people.
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yeah
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Becca Boston
and Don't get me wrong, I love and um appreciate the but the platform that I do have. um I think it's important to recognize too, I never expected to be where I am today. I never wanted to be an influencer. I never wanted to be necessarily a speaker or anything along these lines. But as I continue to show up and just make content, like certain videos went viral and viral going can take a toll on your mental health. That's all I'm gonna say there.
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But I think for me just seeing those like one comments that would say I needed this message or this is how it impacted me here. um I think it really hit home for me as I just shared like at one point in my life I was thinking about suicide and a video popped across my phone and really took me out of that deep and dark place that I was in my life.
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um come 2020 um I made a video just speaking from my heart of giving a word of encouragement and a girl messaged me and said your video just saved my life um and for me that's when one it was like okay there's deeper meaning in the towel that I was thrown back because I always say like I was thinking about throwing in the towel in my life but got through the towel back at me
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Thank you.
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Becca Boston
And I for the longest time had questions like what is what is the meaning and purpose in the town and I think one for me it's recognizing like you are purpose and it's the placement in the world that you're looking to discover. But I also think we live in this social media world now where everybody wants to be seen everybody wants a large following. And I get it, but I think there is a big um perspective switch that needs to happen about focusing on the one person who needs your message because a one person impacts mentality is going to create a ripple effect. um And I think too, it's important to recognize that sometimes that person is you. Like, I'm not gonna lie, you to my 2020 content is in my eyes, it's cringy.
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just because like I was really starting out. I didn't know what I was doing. I didn't have the confidence to own my big energy yet and like I didn't really know who I was, right? um So now looking back, like I watched some of my content and I'm like, you go girl. like that's that's you know So I think like recognizing That is not always in the numbers, you know, it's not always seen.
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And people, some people don't know this, but some people can buy followers. So some people, like some people are not even like legit.
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and we
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But impact isn't always seen in the comments. It's not always seen in the like or the amount of following. Honestly, it's nine times out of 10, usually somebody who's in my DMs or somebody who silently watches me.
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and then pops up here and there. So um I think just the one person impact mentality can help people focus on their community and build those solid connections, which then creates a rebel effect.
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Yeah. And I think it keeps you focused on that vision, like to help somebody instead of losing that site to where you're just trying to please to get attention, which is like a natural thing for some people to want to do. I mean, there's a lot of science behind that. And I think that one person mentality for me is one of the reasons why I do this podcast is If I can help one person or one woman with one issue through the podcast and my guest on the show, that's all I want. That's all I want is to be that person that I needed or that podcast that I needed at some point.
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um Before I had to learn it the hard way after, you know, running into a concrete wall over and over and over again and learning things the hard way. um And that's why I share things on my podcast that, you know, I probably wouldn't normally share like having a surgeon who operated on my uterus on the podcast because
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Hmm. Hmm?
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It was something that impacts a lot of women and I had some women reach out to me that um had a similar issue and were going to see the same surgeon and she was terrified about the surgery. She's like, I don't know if I should do it. I don't know. I don't know. I'm terrified. And I spoke to her on the phone about my experience and she did end up going through with the surgery and said, you know, um she was doing great. She's so happy she did it. But just to like,
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help someone through that, even though it wasn't necessarily business or entrepreneurship related. um In my mind, it's about awareness and anything that can help women even in their personal lives leads into your success and your professional life and your business life and getting to that ultimate goal of living this life of fulfillment that I think everybody wants.
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Becca Boston
Oh, absolutely. And I think too, like you're sharing, like you never know what somebody else is going behind the scenes, you know, like, and, and sometimes how like your message may hit differently or, um or that somebody is kind of looking for that connection or your lived experience, you know, I always say that your story can be somebody else's survival guide, your experience can be somebody else's
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Okay.
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Becca Boston
You know next step on how to get to where they need to go So I love that she reached out to you to just you know Talk things through and sometimes that's all people need is to just talk things through
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Yeah and hear from a person, not from a doctor or you know and just from someone's experience I think can be really valuable sometimes because you're just like oh this is somebody that I view sort of and from the same perspective of me and not someone behind a title or someone behind you know some some I don't know classification that I don't really relate to it's just a person and so Yeah.
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Okay. So where, so you have two books, right?
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Becca Boston
Uh, I mean, I have, so there's activate, which is the book that I did a compilation.
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Or one book.
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Becca Boston
And then I have the story behind the smile lessons within my life. And then, uh, burn the burnout is currently an ebook, uh, but it will become as a physical copy soon.
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Okay. Okay. So where can a great city women get access to these books or purchase them?
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Becca Boston
Yeah. Great question. So, um, activate. I don't promote too, too much anymore just because I do have my own stuff. Um, so, um, you can go to BeckaBoston.net or you can reach out to me on any social media. Um, Instagram is typically the best. So Becka Boston's 26.
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Becca Boston
um If you want a signed copy, um I do typically have some on hand, um or it's also available on Amazon. You do have to kind of Google search it first, but once you do that, um you can get it there. And then the eCopy of Burn the Burnout is on my website, which is BeccaBoston.net.
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Awesome. Okay, so what is your biggest piece of advice that you would offer Grit City women?
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Becca Boston
The biggest thing that's on my heart is that you don't have to fit into a mold of what beauty is like you get to create what your beauty is and don't allow anybody to change who who you are. like Your heart and your character really defines your beauty. I always say there is no amount of makeup that can cover up an ugly heart and an ugly character. and you know I always kind of share a story that in the beginning of kind of my entrepreneur journey, i
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you know had somebody who saw my light and potential before I could even really fully see it and they wanted to take me to the next level and they said okay but you're gonna have to start putting on makeup you're gonna have to start wearing dresses you're gonna have to start doing this and that and these and those and I was so blown away I was like are you not am I invisible right now like you're talking to me like what do you mean I need to do this to be seen And I asked him that and he said, yes, I can see you. And I said, great, I just wanted to make sure I'm not I'm not tripping. And I slammed the I slammed the computer down on him and ended the call because I was like, I'm I'm no longer going to allow, you know, somebody to change who I am. And I share that story and I say that just to say, like,
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you don't have to change who you are. Your people will come your way. Your people will see your beauty. You also don't need to fit and define yourself into a box, right? Like for so long, I lost my tomboy self and now I found my tomboy self again. But I'm also learning to embrace, you know, different sides of my offend feminine side. So like, know that like your beauty is your heart and your character. You wear the clothes.
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um You have your own confidence within your swag in the way you carry yourself. um So just create who you are, be more focused on your heart and your character then it's okay to show up authentically yourself.
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do
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so
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Yeah, I love that. I love that because I feel like it sort of relates to our slogan, gritty is the new pretty of, you know, the great city women, I intentionally wanted great city women to be
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Yeah.
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something that was feminine but strong and not something that was just like, oh, it's a woman's club and pink everywhere, nothing against that.
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But it's that's not me, right?
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Becca Boston
Yeah.
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Like I would never be like have my room pink and all these pink things. Like that's just not me. And I don't think that that you know represents all women.
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And I don't think that should be you know necessarily what we go to when we think of of successful women or entrepreneurs. And so for me, it was really important to kind of really embrace this this strong femininity and focus on you know that grit that we have inside of us. And so I love that message.
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Becca Boston
Yeah, I love that. And I think too, like like you're saying, like i am I am not that pink person either. like yeah The stereotypical like things women like, I typically don't. ah But I say that to say too. like Don't also limit yourself of like not getting into the room with those types of people or like being around them because yes, you and I'm speaking from experience, but like you may feel awkward, you may feel out of place, but it's in that environment that you're standing out and somebody else may need that light of yours or it's giving other people to show up authentically.
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Absolutely.
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Becca Boston
Like I can't tell you how many times I've showed up and just like, you know, my own swag. And then people have been like, oh, I didn't mean to get all dressed up. That is blah, blah, blah. And I'm like, I don't know. I just came here like y'all didn't tell me there was a dress code. So I just came with, you know, my confidence. But ah yeah.
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sure Oh my gosh. I love it. I love it. Well, thank you so much for joining us and sharing your story. I am so excited to check out your book and I'd love to meet up and get a signed copy.
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Becca Boston
Yeah, absolutely.
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All right.
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Becca Boston
I'm super excited to be more in person.
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gcwpodcast
Well, thank you so much, Becca.
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Becca Boston
Yeah, thank you.